Contributing to your team

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It is so difficult to find the balance between what is good for everyone and what is good for myself

The whole
We may agree that we are all part of the whole. It is a matter of how we see our own life. We may, on the one hand, see that we are all interdependent and that we are all part of the whole. We may also see ourselves as individuals trying to maximize our own individual outcome. This will, of course, change from day to day. We are always being challenged by changing circumstances. How we respond to the change will lead to either Ego traps or to being here and now and experiencing the strengths of belonging. Intellectually we all understand this.

We react according to our environment and the people around us. What happens within when we have supporting people surrounding us and what happens when we are surrounded by critical people? Supporting people make us feel connected and give us a sense of belonging. Critical people can make us react defensively and excluding.

Some of us are very emotional and we live our lives as a yo-yo. These people go from happiness to sorrow in seconds. Others are more mental and do not allow the surroundings to influence our emotional reactions. As we grow into adulthood we may need to take on a leadership role, perhaps as a parent or as a manager at work. How do we then cope with our emotions?

Projections and/or taking responsibility
When we feel okay and enjoy life we are generous to those around us. When we feel out of balance we get stressed and try different ways to blame our problems on others. Sometimes this is true and sometimes not. How aware are we about our projections onto others and how relevant are they? What role do I myself play in this “game”? The easiest way might be to blame my own shortcomings on others? The most difficult thing is to reflect on my own behavior and its’ consequences for my surroundings. How did I get into this situation and how much of this is my responsibility?

What can we do?
The first thing we can do is to reflect upon how we are contributing to the whole as a member of our team. Our team may be our family, friends and those in our work place. In what way did you contribute to our team today?

Let us reflect upon the constructive or destructive contribution you gave your team lately:

– What did you say or what did you do?

– How constructive was it?

– How much were a team member and how much did you act out of your own Ego trap to better your own situation at a cost of the team?

Share your reflections with us!

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“The real reason for investing in our space programs was to make it possible to see ourselves from the outside leading to a cognitive shift allowing us to enjoy who we are and make good decisions for the future.”

Best regards
Hans

Hans Akerblom
Founder of LOTS®
CEO of Scandinavian Leadership

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Contributing to your team

I am responsible for where I am and where I will be

Are you ready for a change?
You are in charge of your own future. Are you ready for a change? Photo: http://www.pexels.com

The future is always subjective
We need to remind ourselves of how we create our private and professional life through our positive and negative self-fulfilling prophecies including projecting our own disowned selves onto others. (Our disowned selves are that part of ourselves that we do not wish to recognize.)

We can change our private and professional life if we want to. The future is always subjective and that is why it can be changed. We can create new and more rewarding private and professional self-fulfilling prophecies. It is possible, however, it is not necessarily easy. We are being influenced by our past, our present and our beliefs about the future. Our self-fulfilling prophecies are deeply rooted within us, so where do we start if we want to change?

Where have my self-fulfilling prophecies taken me up to now?
If the future is always subjective it goes without saying that each one of us have to answer this question and reflect upon whether we want to change or not. If we want to change we can start an individual private and/or professional change process that can take us to the next step in life and at work.

We have to take into account, though, that my country, culture, religion, parents, school teachers, colleagues and more have led to my positive and negative self-fulfilling prophecies of today. It will most likely help us to understand why we are where we are before we take actions for change.

If we want to change we need to bring to the surface a provocation to the way things are in our world. This antithesis will challenge our thesis (the way we think our world is) or our self-fulfilling prophesy. What is then my antithesis if I really want to change and develop? Once we have found our antithesis to challenge our thesis, we will work toward a synthesis of these competing ideas. We need to repeat it 100 times every day as the thesis or self-fulfilling prophecies are so deeply rooted within ourselves.

Take a few minutes for reflection.
– Which positive and negative self- fulfilling prophecies do you have/have you had?
– Where have they taken you?
– What would you like to change?
– What new antithesis and thereby synthesis would you like to see in your life?
– What are your new self-fulfilling prophecies?

I know it will be easy for us to integrate our new self-fulfilling prophecies in our private and professional life. (If we said something else it would become a negative self-fulfilling prophesy.)

Finally a question to you who have just read this reflection letter: ”What positive or negative self-fulfilling prophesy steered your reading and reflections?”

I recommend you to watch this video again and again: RSA Animate – The Empathic Civilisation

Best regards

Hans  Akerblom
Founder of LOTS®
CEO of Scandinavian Leadership

I am responsible for where I am and where I will be